Retrieve Lament: a summary and a poem

This morning, I sit shiva with your stories -- the seven from last night, the six shared here during Holy Week:

Brian Murphy (Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.)

Annie Crawford (Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise.)

Chris Pousseur: (Woman, behold your son!)

Rachel Brown (My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?)

Les & Renee Aylesworth (I am thirsty.)

Paul Van Allen (Into Your hands I commit my spirit.)

Last night we attended the Good Friday service that Christ Church holds together with the hospitable Hope Chapel. On Thursday,  we wash feet and eat the Lord's supper before stripping the altar bare.  On Friday we sit in the dark, sing a few hymns and listen to stories.  Suffering stories framed in with the seven last sayings of the dying Christ.

Each storyteller practicing the vulnerability of the exposed Christ, lifted up for all men to see the glory of the Father.

Today I share again what I wrote two years ago.  

Father, into your hands I commit my spirit

         Tamara Hill Murphy, Holy Saturday 2013

Because I've heard -- and haven't seen--

I know the end of the story.

Someone said this means we'll be 

stronger than the twelve.

Because I know the end of the story, 

I have a hard time seeing grief.

It's too easy to skip that day

and say Sunday's coming!

I need to hear middles of stories.

So I can see.  Maybe not hear or

see, but feel.

In the dark church last night, the woman

following her walker to the podium, she

told us she lost the ability to hold onto things

so a man carried her words to her (later, in the dark,

I saw him put the straps of her purse over his own shoulder).

She lost the ability to hold tightly

but not to laugh, or

be held.

Another woman told us her mama's deathbed was the first time she said

"Your love was enough, mama." 

And then with a last look, two women

beheld.

The middle of the story for the twenty-something,

perched on a stool as if her body were so light it might

slide onto the floor, assaulted by uncommon infection and

the still-celebrated church man whose side of the story weighed

more than her body.

All week I heard stories here --

some beginning, some end, some

middle.

The middle of Sharon's

story, so nearly-capsized,

she must speak in boat metaphors (as I have just done).

In church, the six-foot-six bald man raised up 

the microphone to get it close enough to his (surprisingly) 

quiet voice.

I  thought about Sharon then, when the man told his story with

boat metaphors -- the rolling on the floor in anguish 

like a riptide

of leukemia engulfing his six-year-old little girl.

The safe harbor of hope where

she just turned nine.

Still, I listened to the stories all week, the ones

that remind me grief is not terminal.

The woman who made us laugh at Parkinson's, the mama who cried tears for 

her preschooler to catch -- a too-soon old man growing young again,

watered by his mama's tears.

The boy sitting on a bar stool drunk on his daddy's words,

This is my son.  Pass him the peanuts.

The story of the cool cloth

on the orphan's forehead, the poem finding hope in 

hanging by a thread.  

The airplane confessional, a woman committing

her mother's spirit to the sky --

maybe looking out the porthole window,

hoping to cross paths up there in the clouds.

The six-foot-six man standing on the church carpet like a blue wave,

shouting into his tall microphone so that we jumped from our pews --

Father, into your hands I commit my spirit!

And I didn't see Jesus' friends catch him -- raggedy and shredded --

off the wood.  Gauzing him up like a 

bloodied toe.

Burying him deep into virgin ground.

I didn't see it with my own eyes, only heard.

Maybe that's why -- when the scared story teller asked last night, 

"Christ Church will you catch me?"

I said -- Yes! As loud as I could so she could hear me.

But also, maybe, God,

to remind you in case you forgot -- 

what with your back turned and all --

that's what Good Fathers --

brothers

sisters

friends

airplane strangers -- do.

We catch the slip-sliding spirits falling out of the suffering.

And hand them over to

be held.

Since it's only Saturday, and we haven't yet 

really seen the Sunday (haven't beheld him in the clouds),

all we can do now

is hope you'll open your hands

and catch us from the

ground.